Be a fucking Man

Some people are naturally bad at life. I consider living being a form of art that you have to create for yourself.

"Then you should know in Poker you do not play your cards; You play your opponents"

~ James Bond "Casino Royale"

I compare life to this. You do not play your cards that were given to you by chance, but the challenges and dynamics of life. Sure, some people got a pair of aces but sometimes even that is a loosing hand. So you have to take what you was given and use it in a way that gets you towards goals you want to achieve. Be it for getting that girl you've always loved to be your date at prom (I would, however, never endorse anyone to live in the imaginary world where they are "in love" with someone they have barely spoken to).

So when someone complains about circumstances I e mediately get this weird feeling in my stomach that I hate. I always say "Everything that happens around you is a reaction of your actions". Basically, every bad thing that will ever happen to you is your own fucking fault. Which can, in fact, be very depressive. However, one must realize the endless possibilities of this. If every bad thing have happen because of you then it means YOU are actually ABLE to CHANGE it.

I used to be so "action-ized". It was all about what I was doing. I didn't find a purpose, meaning or reason to what I did. There were simply something to be gained and the following steps into getting it. Whenever I had failed I tried to see what step I had done wrong. It never clicked to me to think of WHY I did do wrong.

Slowly, I started failing more then succeeding and it was a harsh thing to constantly believe that everything is your fault.

However, I have found, the reason behind everything you do and the way you behave is based on your, what we Venusian Artists call, Inner Game. I am not the first person to find out about this. I am glad, however, that I did it on my own as it sometimes takes you to reinvent the wheel in order to understand why it has to be round.

So instead of always fixing the things you do wrong, why not simply eliminate what makes you do the wronging in the first place? The thing about Inner Game is that you cannot teach it. It contains of your biggest inner beliefs and core ideals of life. If these are working against you then you will ALWAYS have things that went wrong to fix and you will become burned out. The thin
g about Inner Game is, you have to realize things on your own.

How to speed this up or how to in an effective way realize things are questions I cannot answers. But if you truly wonder why you were never able to stay on that diet that you had planned out for yourself then the answer is not in what you did wrong but rather in WHY.

Also, the most important thing you can do, and this comes from a dear friend of mine, is to constantly ask yourself "is this what a man would do?". There are a lot of ideals as of what a man is but I don't give a shit about your way of defining it. Let alone if it helps you.

A boy is always blaming on circumstances and making excuses. He will fail at something and blame it on things that he "could not change". I say fuck that. Always blame yourself and make a change to what brings you failure. But most importantly, always search for the reason to why you are doing things that is not good for you.

Be a fucking Man and earn your life.

I'm out!